Building a
Support Group and Rewards
The image of the individualist
achiever is irresistibly romantic, deeply entrenched, and completely
misleading. We all need help, lots of it, and it shouldn’t come from the same
person save monogamy for your marriage life, and seek multiple
professional/knowledgeable partners.
Identify and build a support group of
people you can share your goals and aspirations that you can refer to for
guidance and mentorship. If you want to achieve things, you can’t go at it
alone; to achieve those lofty financial goals seek the guidance of a rich
friend or acquaintance who has done just that, to achieve those health goals
seek the guidance of your Doctor or medical friend to give perspective on the
risks of not! Let your religious friend/cell community/pastor/priest/vicar help
with the spiritual goals.
Just as people change jobs, you should
be changing your mentors. You need mentors at every stage of your goal
achieving process who are at varying stages of their own goal achieving life
who will give insightful and diverse approaches, a circle of advisors giving a
mixture of tough love, specialized advice, fresh insights and clear direction
for when you need it the most.
When someone knows what your goals
are, they will hold you accountable by asking you to ‘give an account’ of where
you are in the process of achieving that goal. If a goal is set and only one
person knows it, does is really have any power? Most times NO.
In life you can’t play your cards
right if you keep them close to your chest, go ahead a have mentors for each of
your goal setting areas.
Rewarding oneself is a salient
component in the goal achieving process; recognizing and celebrating your
accomplishments however small they are, by doing something you really enjoy- it
doesn’t have to be expensive- you just have to derive satisfaction from it and
this gives you a sense of: completion, confidence, and most importantly the motivation
for the next task.
These rewards could range from buying
that dress, an outing with the boys, buying that book, even phone, watch or
even heading for that body massage.
To have the mentors and rewards in
place you need to take this goal setting process serious; otherwise you will
not attract the support you seek and therefore could have nothing to show.
New trends of ‘go with the flow’, ‘YOLO’-
you only live once have become popular life philosophies lately, this seems to
mean we cannot actually schedule things ahead of time. But this is not taking
into account the fact that our brains like patterns, routine and organization.
You will be blown away by what happens
when you actually write things down and schedule- things actually get done!
(Just refer to your day job)
And when you track your progress, you
get the satisfaction of seeing how much you’ve accomplished, so just do it.
In a nutshell goal setting will
provide you with the bridge between where you are now and where you want to go.
Like it’s said if you want a shade in old age, you have to plant the tree early
in life; so sow your goal setting seed.
The renowned actor Will Smith says
“When setting goals, focus on the process rather than the end goal, focus on
laying each brick perfectly, rather than building an entire wall.”
In this same regard Warren Buffet the
world’s finest investor says “When the tide goes out, you will find out who’s
been swimming naked”.
Persist when the path gets tough, stay
calm, narrow your options, get the right people on board as you get rid of the
wrong ones, make targeted changes, accept failure- failing is fine aiming for
second best isn’t, go slowly and keep going.
Happy and prosperous 2016!
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